One of M. Scott Peck’s quotes of love reads, “Love is the free exercise of choice. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.”
Many people tend to think of love as a mysterious force that randomly hypnotizes two people and draws them together. But if love is really like that, then all the sacrifices you made for your beloved mean nothing because after all, those sacrifices are not by choice.
Fortunately, love is not a mysterious force as many quotes of love suggest. In his book, The Road Less Travelled, Dr. M. Scott Peck dug deep into his experience as a psychiatrist to discover what love really is—a commitment, a willful decision to care for another person. It is not a feeling like many believe, but an act of will.
Dr. Peck took the concept of love from the imagination of a fairy tale and romance writer and brought it to the realm of scientific scrutiny. He came up with a definition of love that is based on observation of reality. This definition is one of the few quotes of love that really makes a lot of sense:
“Love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth… Love is as love does. Love is an act of will — namely, both an intention and an action. Will also implies choice. We do not have to love. We choose to love.”
When you love somebody, you choose to make them an extension of yourself. You care for them in the same way that you care for yourself. This denotes appreciation of that other person’s good traits and the acceptance of his or her flaws. This may take away the romantic visions of love, but it saves you from being a victim of an unknown force that hypnotizes you into becoming beholden to somebody. To love somebody will always be your own choice, your own doing.
Quotes of Love by Famous People
I NEVER KNEW HOW TO WORSHIP UNTIL I KNEW HOW TO LOVE.
– HENRY WARD BEECHER
A TOUCH OF LOVE, EVERYONE BECOMES A POET.
WHEN LOVE IS NOT MADNESS, IT IS NOT LOVE.
-PEDRO CALDERON DE LA BARCA
WHO, BEING LOVED, IS POOR?
IF YOU MAKE A GIRL LAUGH, SHE LIKES YOU. IF YOU MAKE A GIRL CRY, SHE LOVES YOU
I PRAY YOU, DO NOT FALL IN LOVE WITH ME, FOR I AM FALSER THAN VOWS MADE IN WINE
LOVE AND MARRIAGE, GO TOGETHER LIKE A HORSE AND CARRIAGE.
FRIENDSHIP OFTEN ENDS IN LOVE; BUT LOVE IN FRIENDSHIP – NEVER.
– CHARLES CALEB COLTON
LOVE IS BLIND, BUT FRIENDSHIP CLOSES ITS EYES.
ABOVE ALL THINGS I BELIEVE IN LOVE. LOVE IS LIKE OXYGEN. LOVE IS A MANY-SPLENDORED THING. LOVE LIFTS US UP WHERE WE BELONG. ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE!”
– CHRISTIAN IN MOULIN ROUGE
MY LOVE FOR YOU IS DEATHLESS, IT SEEMS TO BIND ME TO YOU WITH MIGHTY CABLES THAT NOTHING BUT OMNIPOTENCE COULD BREAK…
WITH MY LAST BREATH, I’LL EXHALE MY LOVE FOR YOU. I HOPE IT’S A COLD DAY, SO YOU CAN SEE WHAT YOU MEANT TO ME.
– JAROD KINTZ
THE LOSS OF YOUNG FIRST LOVE IS SO PAINFUL THAT IT BORDERS ON THE LUDICROUS.
Quotes of Love
TWO SOULS WITH BUT A SINGLE THOUGHT, TWO HEARTS THAT BEAT AS ONE.
MAYBE YOU DON’T NEED THE WHOLE WORLD TO LOVE YOU, YOU KNOW. MAYBE YOU JUST NEED ONE PERSON.
– KERMIT THE FROG
TWO LOVERS IN THE RAIN HAVE NO NEED OF AN UMBRELLA.
I HAVE TRIED TO LET YOU GO AND I CANNOT. I CANNOT STOP THINKING OF YOU. I CANNOT STOP DREAMING ABOUT YOU.
– ERIN MORGENSTERN
PEOPLE SHOULD FALL IN LOVE WITH THEIR EYES CLOSED
– ANDY WARHOL
I’M SO IN LOVE, EVERY TIME I LOOK AT YOU MY SOUL GETS DIZZY
TO LOVE AND BE LOVED IS TO FEEL THE SUN FROM BOTH SIDES.
Quotes of Love
THERE’S BEGGARY IN LOVE THAT CAN BE RECKONED
IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE, LET THEM GO. IF THEY RETURN TO YOU, IT WAS MEANT TO BE. IF THEY DON’T, THEIR LOVE WAS NEVER YOURS TO BEGIN WITH…
THERE ARE NOT ENOUGH DAYS IN FOREVER TO ALLOW ME TO FULLY EXPRESS THE DEPTH OF MY LOVE FOR YOU.
– STEVE MARABOLI
LOVE IS LIKE A FRIENDSHIP CAUGHT ON FIRE.
FIRST LOVE IS A KIND OF VACCINATION WHICH SAVES MAN FROM CATCHING THE COMPLAINT THE SECOND TIME.
– HONORE DE BALZAC
FALLING IN LOVE IS WHEN SHE FALLS ASLEEP IN YOUR ARMS AND WAKES UP IN YOUR DREAMS.
YOU KNOW YOU’RE IN LOVE WHEN YOU CAN’T FALL ASLEEP BECAUSE REALITY IS FINALLY BETTER THAN YOUR DREAMS.
LOVE IS LIKE A CHILD, THAT LONGS FOR EVERYTHING IT CAN COME BY
TRUE LOVE STORIES NEVER HAVE ENDINGS.
– RICHARD BACH
LOVE IS LIKE AN HOURGLASS, WITH THE HEART FILLING UP AS THE BRAIN EMPTIES.
– JULES RENARD
A HUG IS LIKE A BOOMERANG: YOU GET IT BACK RIGHT AWAY.
– BILL KEANE
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