Television Addiction

Television Addiction

Overcoming Television Addiction

woman watching televisionTelevision addiction, you may think its harmless, but its not, let me show you that it can be harmful to you.

Television watching has been a favorite past time of families since the television set first debuted in households.

Today, the volume of channels and show choices has increased and there is something for everyone to enjoy.

How do you watch television and how often do you watch it? Signs Of Addiction

Do you tune in only to view your favorite shows or to catch the news and keep up with current events?

Or do you find yourself channel surfing for hours on end?

Being addicted to Television is common in teens and adults and can begin at an early age.

Many parents use the television as a ‘babysitter”, setting children in front of it for hours as they go about accomplishing household duties.

In a way, people can be conditioned to become addicted to television.

With televisions in every household and outrageously entertaining shows to boot, you may wonder how you might ever overcome your addiction to it.

These tips will help you give your addiction a slap equivalent to those received by television sets in the olden days:

  • Find other hobbies; a healthy hobby, like reading, it will distract you and entertain you simultaneously.
  • Limit yourself to only watching television after accomplishing tasks and at set times (in other words, no channel surfing, just scheduled show watching).
  • Limit your household to one television set, this will reduce television watching at bed time and while eating meals.
  • Take the focus off of your television by making another furnishing the focal point of your living room. Rearrange the room or hide the television within an armoire.
Remember that admitting that you have in fact acquired an addiction to watching television is the first step in the direction of recovery.

By making simple changes to your lifestyle you can pull the plug on your TV addiction!

My book Overcoming Life’s Challenges

Television Addiction Quote By Chuck Palahniuk

No one wants to admit we’re addicted to music. That’s just not possible. No one’s addicted to music and television and radio. We just need more of it, more channels, a larger screen, more volume. We can’t bear to be without it, but no, nobody’s addicted. We could turn it off anytime we wanted.

Chuck Palahniuk

Overcoming Life’s Challenges

The Inspiring and Empowering Story of One Woman’s Triumph Over Alcoholism, Bankruptcy, weight issues and Despair.

She did not just struggle to survive. She struggled to win!

If a single sentence could sufficiently describe a lifetime, then this would be an apt description of Moya’s life. From a privileged childhood to adulthood of bankruptcies and subsequent salvation, Moya weathered all storms to be where she is now—a fulfilled woman with a story to tell.

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Shopaholic

Shopaholic

Overcoming Shopaholic Addiction

woman showing a credit cardBeing a shopaholic, how can this affect your life and maybe destroy it, I show you the damages it can do and how to help you overcome it.

It’s payday (or not) and you just can’t wait to get that cheque in your hand or that money deposited into your bank account so that you can reward yourself for all your hard work with a shopping spree. You really don’t need a new pair of shoes, but you’ll buy one just to fill in the open space on the rack hanging on your closet door.

Does this sound a lot like your shopping habits?

Do you love to shop till you drop?

Splurging occasionally can be a nice treat, but do you spend a dollar every time you have one in your hand?
 
If your friends refer to you as a shopaholic, maybe it’s time you took a step back and a good look at yourself, your lifestyle and your spending habits.
 
While it is often glorified in films and music videos, addiction to shopping is very real and its effects are usually not so glorious. Signs Of Addiction
 

The Damage of Being a Shopaholic

How can your shopping affect your life and the lives of those around you?

Here are a few of the ways it can do its damage:

  • Ruined relationships as a result of your overspending, especially if you borrowed or used a friend or family member’s money to make your purchases.
  • Debt that can take years to pay off.
  • A bad name, literally. Ruining your credit can affect your ability to make more important purchases later in life.
  • Feelings of guilt and worthlessness, because you can’t buy true happiness and all of your purchases are temporary “pick-me-ups”.

Overcoming Addiction to Shopping

How do you stop the urge to shop before it drops greater damage on your life?

After accepting the fact that you are suffering from a very real addiction you can begin overcoming addiction to shopping with these steps:

  • Find a local Debtors Anonymous group and attend its meeting. You’ll get support and learn how to avoid overspending and get out of debt, overcoming addiction is the only way to beat this, if you don’t you are going to go deeper and deeper into debt.
  • Get rid of credit cards and make purchases with a debit card or cheque; using forms of payment that immediately withdrawal money from a linked account decreases compulsive buying.
  • Only shop with a shopping list, so you have specific purchases to make and can seek out those items as soon as you arrive at a store.
  • Only window shop after store hours, that way you can sleep on it if you see something you think you want to purchase.
  • Carry a certain amount of cash for spending when going shopping and only spend that cash.
  • Avoid watching TV shopping networks or receiving catalogs in the mail.
  • Don’t shop alone; shopping with others has been known to encourage excess shopping, but if you let your fellow shopper know that you are trying to overcome your addiction they can assist you in making smart purchases.
  • Find a hobby to fill the void and relieve stress; exercise, volunteer or take walks.
  • Don’t ignore your debt; come up with a plan to repair and repay, ignoring your debt will only cause things to worsen and you will never free of your addiction.

We lost our family business and went bankrupt, I learnt so much, my whole way of thinking changed and I got back to basics – I talk more about this in my book Overcoming Life’s Challenges One thing I have learnt, I never run from my creditors.

In this economic times, I have read about so many suicides, so think before you overspend

Shopping can be fun and we all have to shop for one thing or another from time to time.

Learning to shop and spend smart is key to your recovery of overcoming addiction to shopping.

Now go buy yourself a new life!

Overcoming Shopaholic Addiction Quote By George A. Sheehan

We may think there is willpower involved, but more likely, change is due to want power. Wanting the new addiction more than the old one. Wanting the new me in preference to the person I am now.

George A. Sheehan

Overcoming Life’s Challenges

The Inspiring and Empowering Story of One Woman’s Triumph Over Alcoholism, Bankruptcy, weight issues and Despair.

She did not just struggle to survive. She struggled to win!

If a single sentence could sufficiently describe a lifetime, then this would be an apt description of Moya’s life. From a privileged childhood to adulthood of bankruptcies and subsequent salvation, Moya weathered all storms to be where she is now—a fulfilled woman with a story to tell.

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Overcoming Sugar Addiction

Overcoming Sugar Addiction

Overcoming Sugar Addiction

Sugar AddictionHave you got a sugar addiction.

You’ve had a bad day and you’re glad to see its end.

You’ve just settled down in front of the television as you reach for that sugary snack to help you relax.

Sound familiar?

I use to eat a bag full of lollies then feel sick as I ate them so quick and then go and throw them up.

It may seem like a normal scenario, but an addiction to sugar could be in the works.

It may be hard to believe, but you can become addicted to sugar.Signs Of Addiction

It can consume you just the same as a drug addiction or any other form of addiction.

While eating sweets in moderation is acceptable, too many sweets makes for a very sour life.

For me, it went back to my lonely childhood, I had a really sweet tooth, years later I realized I had the sweet tooth because I was trying to sweeten myself so I would be loved – I talk more about this in my book Overcoming Life’s Challenges here I share with you how I overcame my sugar addiction

It isn’t easy to admit that you are an addict, no matter what your addiction is to.

Think of the results of an addiction that belongs to an addict who never seeks recovery.

There’s plenty of damage that can be done.

The Damage of Sugar Addiction

Choosing to ignore your addiction will only allow it to grow.

Here are some of the ways in which it does its damage:

  • Diabetes
  • Heart Disease
  • Obesity
  • Tooth decay
  • Disruption of normal brain utility
  • Weakened immune system
  • Low blood sugar

Overcoming Sugar Addiction

You’ve accepted the fact that you have an addiction to sugar, well welcome to the road to recovery!

By committing to these simple steps, you can conquer your addiction.

  • Drink Water (even the healthiest juices contain sugars)
  • Wipe out white foods; pastas, breads, and other carbohydrates are sugar products in disguise.
  • Eat fruits and sweet vegetables, such as sweet potatoes and carrots.
  • Choose protein packed products, these will give you an energy that endures.
  • Don’t substitute sugar with artificial sweeteners, these can cause sugar cravings and have even been known to lead to health issue; instead use honey or ask your local grocer where you can find Stevia, a very sweet herb that is great for sweetening. Check out the benefits of stevia for your health!
  • Limit alcohol consumption, alcohol is made from sugar and it is best to avoid drinking it in the beginning of your recovery.
  • Educate your inner nutrition expert and learn what products contain hidden sugars so that you may make conscience healthy decisions.
  • Exercise; it decreases your cravings while burning off calories.
  • Take vitamins B and C, they will also help curb cravings.
  • Keep sugar products out of your home; the longer the products stay out of your home the longer they’ll stay out of your system! Going to a friend’s home? Bring your own sugar free dish!
  • Eat sugar products in moderation; save sugar product use for special occasions or after meals, like dinner.
  • Get support from a loved one or addiction support group.

Sugar is everywhere and in many things, but you can overcome your addiction to it.

When you commit to living a sugar free life you will make a recovery and gain back your health and well being!

Overcoming Sugar Addiction Quote By Oprah Winfrey

Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.

Oprah Winfrey

Overcoming Life’s Challenges

The Inspiring and Empowering Story of One Woman’s Triumph Over Alcoholism, Bankruptcy, weight issues and Despair.

She did not just struggle to survive. She struggled to win!

If a single sentence could sufficiently describe a lifetime, then this would be an apt description of Moya’s life. From a privileged childhood to adulthood of bankruptcies and subsequent salvation, Moya weathered all storms to be where she is now—a fulfilled woman with a story to tell.

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Signs Of Addiction

Signs Of Addiction

Signs Of Addiction

drinking alcohol in the darkSince there are numerous addictions, there are the different signs of addiction for the most prevalent types of addictions.

Here is an overview of some things to look out for in yourself and others.

Over the years I have been addicted to so many things, Alcohol, drugs, “pills”, sweets, nail biting and many more. I talk more about this in my book Overcoming Life’s Challenges here I share with you how overcoming addiction is what I just had to do, to move forward.

Signs of Addiction To Alcohol:

As with any addiction, there are signs of addiction to alcohol, and its signs are usually very obvious to those who have experience with alcoholics and alcohol addiction. However, if you have no experience or are the possible addict, the signs of addiction to Alcohol can be more difficult to see.

Here are a few of most common signs of addiction to alcoholism:

    • You drink alone.
    • You try to hide your drinking.
    • You make excuses to drink (you need to celebrate, you had a bad day, you are at a party so you have to have at least one drink).
    • You believe you need to drink to function.
    • Drinking often causes nausea and vomiting.
    • Inability to control alcohol intake and you drink more when feeling down.
    • Inability to recall events (“What did I do last night?”).
    • A failure to keep up with your physical appearance.
    • Violent episodes and risky behavior associated with drinking.
    • You get angry when confronted about your drinking habits.
    • Odd sleeping patterns, especially excessive sleeping cycles.
    • Abnormal movement, slowed reactions, slurred speech and disorientation.

If you’ve experienced any of these signs of addiction in your own life or noticed them in the life of a loved one, an alcohol addiction is more than likely what you are looking at. It can be overcome and a full recovery made, but there are steps you need to make. Otherwise, the addiction will worsen.

Read How To Overcome Alcohol Addiction here Overcoming Alcohol Addiction

Signs of Addiction To Drugs:

drug addictedHow can you tell if you are a doctor’s order’s abiding prescription drug user or suffering from drug addictions? The signs of addiction are there, even if the addict attempts to appear fully functional, over time they will lose that ability and their addiction will come to the light.

Here are a few of the signs of addiction to drug abuse;

    • Extreme amounts of energy and an inability to sleep. Cycles of increased activity, restlessness, (This is a sign of someone using stimulants, such as cocaine or methamphetamine.)
    • Crashing in cycles, and sleeping excessively when the crashing occurs.
    • Failure to maintain physical appearance.
    • Failure to fulfill work or family related obligations.
    • Sudden weight loss or gain.
    • Disappearing for hours, days or even weeks at a time.
    • Constant excuse making for disappearances and neglect of responsibilities.
    • Stealing money or asking for it without good reason.
    • Pawning or selling valuables for money.
    • Mood swings and personality changes.
    • Expressed anger when accused of drug use.
    • Unexpected changes in clothing, such as constantly wearing long sleeved shirts, to hide scarring at injection sites.
    • Abnormally slow movements, speech or reaction time, confusion and disorientation. (This is a sign of someone using depressants, such as alcohol, opiates like heroin, benzodiazepines and barbiturates.)
    • Drug related smells on clothes and in hair.
    • Drug related paraphernalia, such as unexplained pipes, roach clips, syringes, broken lighters and small plastic baggies
    • For snorted drugs, chronic troubles with sinusitis or nosebleeds.
    • For smoked drugs, a persistent cough or bronchitis, leading to coughing up excessive mucus or blood.
    • Severe dental problems (This is a sign of someone using methamphetamine.)

There are many ways in which drug addictions affect the addict and they are apparent. After taking a close look at the signs on this list and comparing them to your own behaviors you can tell if you have a drug addiction. Catching it before your life itself goes up in smoke is the key.

Read How To Overcome Drug Addiction here Overcoming Drug Addiction

Signs of Addiction Of Someone in Need Binge Eating Help

Binge eating, like similar eating disorders, often goes untreated until dramatic weight and health issues have already occurred.

It’s easy to mistake binge eating for a form of emotional eating that will pass, unless you know what to look for.

Here are signs of someone in need of Binge eating help:

    • Eating when not hungry, and thinking about eating when not doing so.
    • Eating when feeling low or depressed.
    • Eating in secret or eating differently in front of others than when alone, and isolated eating due to fear of others seeing how much and how quickly you eat.
    • Consuming large amounts of food and then purging later with vomiting or laxatives.
    • Eating foods that are known to be harmful to the individual consuming them.
    • Storing food in strange places to eat at a later time.
    • Eating to escape emotional hurts.
    • Feeling disgusted and/or ashamed after eating, but making no attempts to exercise off the weight.
    • Feeling an inability to control eating habits, but desperately wanting to.
    • Experiencing feelings of guilt.

These signs are some of the most common found in those in need of Binge eating help, but don’t fool yourself into thinking that you aren’t that bad or at risk of becoming a binge eater if you only related to a few of the signs and not all.

Seeking help with your eating is vital to your health.

Read how get Binge Eating Help here Binge Eating Help

Signs of Addiction to Anorexia Nervosa or Under eating:

What should you look for if Anorexia is suspected?

Here are a few signs of Anorexia Nervosa or Under eating:

    • Dieting despite being thin or underweight.
    • Obsessive calculating and tracking of weight, calories, fat grams, nutrition and content in food.
    • Pretending to eat or lying about eating.
    • Preoccupation with food.
    • Strange or secretive food rituals and a refusal to eat around others or in public places.
    • Dramatic weight loss with no medical cause.
    • Feeling “fat” despite being underweight.
    • Fixation on body image or clothing size, and obsessively examining the body in a mirror.
    • Harshly critical of appearance.
    • Wearing baggy clothing to hide extreme weight loss.
    • Cold chills.
    • Forbidding oneself from eating specific foods and setting strict diets.
    • Hiding uneaten food in strange places.
    • Sensitivity towards references about weight and defensiveness when confronted about eating habits.
    • Fatigue, black outs, dizziness and headaches.
    • Genuine Phobia of becoming “fat”.
    • Addictive exercising.
    • Abuse of diet pills, laxatives or enemas.
    • Poor appearance in hair and nails, as well as discoloration in teeth and skin.
    • Denies being too thin.

The above signs are just a small variety of the possible results of Anorexia eating disorders, knowing these signs and catching on to them as early as possible can save the life of an Anorexic, especially one who is in the beginning stages of their disorder.

Read How To Overcome Anorexia Eating Disorder here Overcoming Anorexia Eating Disorder

Signs Of Addiction To Bulimia Disorder Eating

woman eating foodKnowing the signs of Bulimia Disorder Eating will help you to realize whether you are a bulimic and possibly in denial, or whether or not someone you love is in need of help:

    • Secretive eating patterns and avoiding eating in front of others.
    • Abrupt and frequent excusing of themselves to go to the bathroom during or following a meal.
    • Running water in the bathroom to hide the sound of vomiting and/or attempting to cover up the smell with air freshening sprays and the use of mouthwash or gum.
    • Obsessive calculating and tracking of weight, calories and content in foods.
    • Addictive exercising.
    • Abuse of diet pills, laxatives or enemas.
    • Fluctuating weight.
    • Fatigue, dizziness and migraines.
    • Poor appearance in hair and nails, as well as discoloration in teeth and skin.
    • Flushing uneaten portions of food down a toilet and hiding food in strange places to eat at a later time.
    • Frequent sore throats and puffy cheeks due to swollen glands.
    • Knuckle and hand scars or bruising due to sticking fingers down the throat to induce vomiting.
    • Loss of sexual interest.
    • Insomnia, depression, mood swings and feelings of guilt or self hatred.
    • The signs of Bulimia Disorder Eating are often apparent from the beginning, if you know what to watch for.

However, denial can contribute to ignoring the eating disorder and delayed treatment can have major damage on the bulimic, as their eating habits get more out of control.

Read How To Overcome Bulimia Disorder Eating here Overcoming Bulimia Disorder Eating

Signs of Addiction to Stress Eating

How can you tell if your eating habits are identical to those who indulge in stress eating?

Here are a few signs of addiction to help you view your eating more clearly:

    • Your hunger comes on suddenly, seemingly out of the blue you feel an urge to eat and it is usually after an upsetting event or you’ve experienced an emotion you don’t enjoy.
    • You feel as though you must eat a particular food when you feel upset or depressed.
    • You find yourself going out of your way to get the food that you want in that moment (driving to a fast food restaurant or store late at night).
    • The taste of the food soothes you and you continue eating until you are uncomfortably full.
    • You eat to avoid thinking about or partaking in activities that stress you out.
    • You pick up quick, unhealthy food choices because your day is busy and stressful.
    • You reward yourself with food when you accomplish something that makes you feel exhausted or stressed.
    • You eat more at events or in situations that cause you to feel stressed or anxious.

Yes I has all of these signs of addiction, but I never could pin point exactly what was causing it, until I went right back to my child hood I then realized Why I was doing it, I take you on a journey of finding the WHY and HOW I overcame this addiction in my book Overcoming Life’s Challenges

Stress eating occurs in all of us from time to time, but if the signs sound like your typical responses to negative events or emotions and eating, you are likely dealing with this form of eating disorder. You may not be able to think of other ways to handle your stress, but eating won’t solve the underlying problems. In fact, stress eating can cause you many more problems.

Read How To Overcome Stress Eating here Overcoming Stress Eating

Signs Of Addiction To Sugar:

sugar and a cup of teaHow can you tell if you or a loved one has a sugar addiction?

Be honest with yourself, as recognizing and admitting to your addiction is the only way to recovery.

Here are a few tell tale signs of addiction to sugar:

    • Eating high-sugar or starchy foods like lollies, noodles, bread or pasta every day.
    • Stress or depression leads to binging.
    • An inability to stop eating these foods or exercise portion control.
    • You binge on sugar products when extremely stressed or depressed.
    • Obsessing over certain foods.
    • You have a private stash of sweets to go to when you’re feeling low.
    • You add sugar to foods and beverages that are already considerably sweet.
    • You are defensive when someone suggests that sugar is unhealthy and even feel attacked.
    • A decrease in weight due to a lack of nutrients or weight gain due to over consuming sugar products.
    • Extreme energy levels and sudden crashes.
    • Inability to discontinue use of sugar products even after they cause physical discomforts or health issues.

Were any of the signs of addiction too familiar to you?

It isn’t easy to admit that you are an addict, no matter what your addiction is to.

Think of the results of an addiction that belongs to an addict who never seeks recovery.

There’s plenty of damage that can be done.

Read How To Overcome Sugar Addiction here Overcoming Sugar Addiction

Signs of Addiction to Chocolate:

How do you differentiate between the average chocolate lover and a “Chocoholic” suffering from chocolate addiction?

As with any addiction, there are signs that can lead to the answer.

Here are a few that are common signs of addiction in chocolate:

    • Stress or depression leads to binging.
    • Your indulgence in chocolate increases when you are stressed out or feeling depressed.
    • You consume chocolate on a daily or even weekly basis.
    • You exhibit poor portion control, eating entire chocolate bars when you really just want to eat a piece or square and even consuming a large amount of chocolate in one sitting.
    • You get defensive when someone suggests that chocolate is unhealthy or that you are eating it too often.
    • You think about and crave chocolate to the point of an inability to focus, even experiencing withdrawal symptoms like migraines.
    • You use chocolate for an energy boost and crash later on.

Do any of the signs of addiction sound similar to your own relationship with chocolate?

Or perhaps a friend’s?

Even if you are a self proclaimed “Chocoholic” and you had embraced the term, even laughed about it, you may be a struggling with a very real addiction to your favorite treat.

Read How To Overcome Addiction To Chocolate here Overcoming Chocolate Addiction

Signs of Addiction to Exercise:

addicted to exercise Getting yourself in gear by exercising is a great and admirable idea, but how can you tell when you are taking care of your body and well being and when you are ruining them?

Here are a few signs to help you come to a conclusion on whether or not you are suffering from any signs of addiction to exercise:

    • Chronic fatigue, soreness and stiffness.
    • Relying excessively on exercise.
    • You rise bright and early everyday to exercise, even if you aren’t feeling up to it due to sickness or an insufficient amount of sleep.
    • Experiencing withdrawal symptoms.
    • Anxiety and discomfort with the idea of rest or relaxation.
    • You have dropped other hobbies and recreational activities to create more time for exercising.
    • You have placed yourself on a strict diet and began taking pills (for weight gain or loss).
    • You exercise while injured and even believe enduring the pain makes you a better athlete.
    • Work out partners have accused you of being too competitive.
    • Feelings of worthlessness when not exercising.

Do the aforementioned signs of exercise addiction strike a chord in your exercising habits?

You don’t have to give up your pursuit of a healthy body and mind, but perhaps you do have an addiction to exercise and you need to redirect that pursuit of healthiness with recovery before any further damage is done to you and your life.

Read How To Overcome Addiction to Exercise here Overcoming Addiction To Exercise.

Signs of Addiction to Work (Workaholic):

How can you tell if you are a great worker or greatly addicted to work?

There are signs of addiction and they are typically obvious to those around you, even if you don’t notice them yourself at first:

    • There is no separation between work and home, and you often bring unfinished work home with you.
    • Even at home, work is the top priority.
    • Only true “happiness” is found in work.
    • Work always seems to take precedence over family and leisure time.
    • No social life other then work-related events.
    • Work is the topic 24/7, you constantly talk about work and people and events related to your workplace.
    • You become defensive when anyone suggests that you work too much or should cut back on work.
    • You do not take vacations or you take work along with you on vacations.
    • You often stay late after work and come in early
    • You pick up extra hours when you have no need for them
    • You become defensive when anyone suggests that you work too much or should cut back on work. You become upset when friends and family ask you to spend time with them when you have work to do or that you could be doing.
    • You use work as an escape from your outside life.
    • You are constantly trying to make contacts and achieve promotions.
    • You feel worthless when you are not working.

Read How To Overcome Addiction To Work here Overcoming Addiction To Work

Signs of Addiction to Shopping (Shopaholic):

How can you tell when your use of a dollar is detrimental to your well being?

There are signs of addiction to shopping, just as there are signs of other addictions.

Here are a few of the most common signs of addiction shared by shopaholics:

    • It is not a one-time shopping spree, it is a chronic problem and you often shop and splurge alone, as opposed to others who shop and spend more when shopping with friends.
    • Spending over budget.
    • You buy compulsively and often regret purchases you’ve made because you didn’t really need the item.
    • Hiding purchases from family members.
    • Hiding credit card bills and receipts from a spouse or parent.
    • A vicious circle or buying, feeling guilty, returning item’s and then buying again.
    • You have impaired relationships because of shopping and overspending.
    • You use shopping as an outlet for stress, shopping more and spending more when you are depressed or going through job or relationship problems.
    • You are incapable of sticking to a budget and often overspend.
    • You justify your shopping and purchases, they are rewards that you have earned.

If you noticed your own shopping habits within the list of signs of shopping addiction, you should seek help in the form of recovery before your shopping addiction spirals further out of control

Read How To Overcome Being Addicted To Shopping here Overcoming Shopaholic Addiction

Signs of Addiction to Gambling:

Unlike the physical signs that accompany most addictions -foreshadowing the worst- those who need help with gambling addiction may not get that help for some time due to the lack of signs able to be seen by themselves and those around them.

Still, there are ways to spot signs of addiction to gambling, in yourself or others.

Here are a few of the most common signs linked to this addiction:

    • You get defensive when someone suggests that you may have an addiction to gambling.
    • You lie to friends and family about the time and money you invest in gambling, to the point of demanding control of all household finances to cover up where and how much money is going.
    • Become increasingly desperate for money to fund the gambling, you find yourself pawning and selling household valuables to pay off bills and debts.
    • You frequent casinos, poker parties and even partake in online gambling games.
    • You find it difficult to stop playing once you start while at a casino, poker party or while participating in online gambling games.
    • You make excuses to take trips to the casino.
    • You choose gambling over work and family time, it is also beginning to replace your other hobbies.
    • You continue to bet after a huge loss or a significant win.
    • You become desperate for funds to gamble and ask for money from friends, family members, loan companies and take out excessive cash advances on credit cards.

If any of these signs sound similar to your gambling behaviors, it is a great possibility that you have an addiction and need help with a gambling addiction. As with any addiction, catching it early on is ideal, before too much damage is done.

Read How To Overcome Addiction To Gambling here Help With Gambling Addiction.

Signs of Addiction to Sex:

What exactly is sex addiction?

How can you tell if you simply enjoy sex and are not abusing it, or if you need to learn how to fight a sex addiction?

Here are the most apparent signs of addiction displayed by those suffering:

    • You get urges to masturbate that you cannot fight and feel overpowered by your addictive sexual behavior.
    • You have multiple sex partners and find it impossible for you to be faithful to any one individual.
    • You use pornography consistenly.
    • Engaging is unsafe sex.
    • You engage in casual sex with anonymous partners whom you’ve met online or on a hotline.
    • You have paid for sex, visiting prostitutes.
    • You use sex as an escape or to fill an emotional void.
    • You feel shame, pain or guilt after masturbating or engaging in sexual acts.
    • You lie to your spouse about the time you spend watching porn or masturbating, or deny doing either altogether.
    • You have lied and rearranged your schedule to engage in sexual acts or masturbate.
    • You’ve failed at attempts and broken promises to stop acting out sexually.

These are just some of the ways in which sexual addiction takes form in the addict.

Do any of these behaviors sound similar to your own?

If yes is the answer to the question, recovery awaits you once you determine how to fight sex addiction.

It’s a battle worth fighting, as it can do tremendous damage on your life and the lives of those whom you love and who love you.

Read How To Overcome Sex Addiction here How To Fight Sex Addiction

Signs of Addiction to Pornography:

The majority of individuals watch or have watched pornography. The films and magazines are meant to be enjoyed so enjoying them is not an instant indication of an addiction to pornography.

Here are some real indications of this addiction:

    • An inability to stop using porn despite previous attempts to do so.
    • You become upset when asked to stop viewing pornography, if you are interrupted while viewing porn, or if it is suggested that you view it too much or too often.
    • Hiding or attempting to keep secret all or a part of the porn use.
    • Continuing the behaviour despite obvious consequences, like a relationship or job loss.
    • Getting lost in the problem porn use, such as spending more time than intended, losing track of time.
    • You cannot help but visit pornographic websites while online, whether at home or at a work place and often lose track of the time while exploring these sites.
    • You use pornography to escape reality.
    • You have relationship problems as a result of your pornography usage.
    • You find it difficult to achieve orgasm or enjoy sex at all with your partner.
    • You compare your partner to pornography stars and try to emulate sex acts seen on a pornographic video.
    • You subscribe to pornography magazines and/or websites.
    • You feel ashamed or guilty after viewing pornography.
    • You suffer withdrawal symptoms when you are unable to watch pornography; this includes irritability, anxiety and constant thoughts or fantasies about the next time you will get to view pornography.

How does your pornography usage match up with that of pornography addicts?

Like sex addiction, it can be difficult to admit to such a personal addiction and be open to help.

Yet, realizing that receiving help is the only way to recovery and getting help with pornography addiction will ensure that it doesn’t cause further damage to your life and the lives of those around you.

Read How To Overcome Pornography Addiction here Overcoming Addiction To Pornography

Signs of Addiction to the Internet:

How do you determine whether or not your internet usage is healthy and normal, or an addiction?

Here are some signs of addiction to help you to differentiate:

    • A mixture of feeling relaxed and guilty while at the computer.
    • Unsuccessful efforts to quit or limit your computer use.
    • Lose track of time while on the computer or internet.
    • Neglect friends, family and/or responsibilities in order to be online or while online.
    • Lying to your boss and family about the amount of time spent on the computer.
    • Feeling anxious, depressed, or irritable when your computer time is shortened or interrupted.
    • Use the computer repeatedly as an outlet when sad, upset, or for sexual gratification.
    • Develop problems in school or on the job as a result of the time spent and the type of activities accessed on the computer.
    • You experience withdrawal symptoms when you are not able to use the internet, including anxiety over the next time you will get online and constantly thinking about what is happening online.
    • You have been unsuccessful in lowering the amount of time you spend on the computer or stopping usage completely.
    • You become upset when someone or something interrupts your time online.
    • You have been reprimanded at work or school for your internet usage and it interferes with your productivity at either.

Do any of these signs sound like your feelings and behaviors in relation to internet usage?

If so, you may have an addiction to internet.

It’s more common than you know and it is just as real of an addiction as drugs and alcohol.

Over time, without recovery being sought, it can take a toll on your life.

It’s important to realize the damage it can do and how to cure internet addiction.

Read How To Overcome Addiction To The Internet here Overcoming Addiction To The Internet

Signs of Addiction to Cigarettes:

You might think that cigarette addicts know who they are and that they are in fact suffering from an addiction. However, some are as in denial as any type of addict, ashamed to admit that have become powerless to their habit.

Here are a few signs of addiction to cigarettes:

Suffering withdraw symptoms when placed in situation where smoking is not allowed, which can include:

    • irritability
    • impatience
    • hostility
    • anxiety
    • depressed mood
    • difficulty concentrating
    • restlessness
    • decreased heart rate
    • increased appetite or weight gain
    • Smoking despite health problems related or aggravated by smoking.
    • Giving up social or recreational activities that don’t allow smoking.
    • Smoking cigarettes as a means of stress relief or in attempt to curb other cravings, such as food and sweets.
    • Smoking despite health problems related to or aggravated by smoking.
    • Giving up social or recreational activities that don’t allow smoking.
    • Enduring cold climates or rain to smoke a cigarette outdoors while at a work place or any other place that does not allow smoking.
    • Including cigarette purchases in your budget.
    • Failed attempts to quit smoking through the use of patches, gums, hypnosis or other recommended cessation methods.
    • Experiencing common withdrawal symptoms when placed in a situation that does not allow you to smoke including anxiety, impatience, restlessness, irritability, increased appetite, weight gain, decreased heart rate and difficulty concentrating.

If any of these signs rang a bell, there’s a good chance you have a cigarette addiction. Like all addictions, cigarette addiction does far more damage than good to the lives of its abusers.

Read How To Overcome Cigarette Addiction here Overcoming Cigarette Addiction

Signs of Addiction to Television:

There are signs that go beyond being called a “couch potato” or a remote control hog.

Here are some things to look out for in yourself and the members of your household to recognize signs of addiction to television:

    • You watch television mindlessly, unaware of anything going on around you or even what exactly it is you are watching.
    • You have televisions in every room of your home and often fall asleep with the television on.
    • You cannot sleep without the television on.
    • You neglect personal hygiene, work, family and other responsibilities because you are too involved in a show you are watching.
    • You cancel recreational events or rearrange your schedule so that you don’t have to miss a show on television.
    • You relate to characters on television and feel more connected with them than you do with people in your real life.
    • You associate television watching with food or certain emotions (for example, you grab a gallon of ice cream and flop down in front of the television after you’ve had a bad day or are feeling low).
    • You often stay up late watching television
    • You experience withdrawal symptoms when you are unable to watch television, including anxiety, depression and seemingly incurable boredom.

How do the signs and behaviors of television addicts compare with your television viewing habits?

If you’ve experienced similar symptoms you may be suffering from television addiction.

Like any addiction, you can free yourself of its chains.

Read How To Overcome Television Addiction here Overcoming Television Addiction

Signs of Addiction to Coffee:

If you are like the majority of the world, you are a consumer of coffee. Purchasing it on lunch break runs for every office employee occupying a cubicle, brewing it up at the start of a work day, savoring the smell of it and the warmth of the cup in your hand as you settle down for a chat or to enjoy a good read at your favorite café. Coffee has become a part of the American culture, but it has also become one of the most prominent world wide addictions as well.

So, how can you tell if you are among the average coffee drinkers who simply enjoy an occasional cup or if you have a coffee addiction that you need to get under control?

Here are some common signs of coffee addiction and behaviors exhibited by those addicted to it:

    • You drink coffee in excess amounts, purchasing larger sized cups.
    • You drink coffee at the start of every day.
    • You use coffee for comfort when you are stressed out or feeling low.
    • You use coffee for energy boosts and crash later on.
    • You scrape change to get up enough money to purchase a coffee.
    • You lie about the number of coffees you’ve consumed on any given day.
    • You frequent coffee houses and cafés, often knowing the employees or owners by name and vice versa.
    • You associate coffee houses and cafés with your social life, inviting friends and dates to meet you there for any social activities
    • You feel as though you need a coffee to get through your day.
    • You suffer from insomnia and often feel restless.
    • You experience withdrawal symptoms when you go without a coffee for an extended period of time including headaches, nausea, jitteriness, irregularity in your heart beat, exhaustion, irritability, gastrointestinal issues, muscle tremors and difficulty concentrating.

If any of the signs or behaviors seemed similar to your own, you can safely bet that you have a coffee addiction. It’s easy to develop an addiction to coffee, with it being so available and affordable. It also seems to have many benefits. What’s not to love about a little energy boost in the form of a warm, satisfying liquid? Plenty, when you are addicted to it and need recovery to stabilize you and overcome it.

Admit to your coffee addiction and refrain from justifying your consumption of it. There’s no amount of stress handled in a day, at work or at home, that justifies downing a Tall cup of caffeine and feeding into your addiction. Find other ways to relieve your stress or reward yourself for jobs well done. It’s a social drink, but you can learn to say no and opt for other beverages when you are offered a cup. Go to a library if you want to engage in light conversation or read a book in a peaceful public place. When you take conscience steps towards your recovery you can learn to put down the cup that is your coffee addiction.

Read How To Overcome Coffee Addiction here Overcoming Coffee Addiction

Signs of Addiction to Solitaire:

Are you a lover of computer games, especially addiction solitaire?

Do you worry you may be playing the game to the extent of abuse, and are possibly suffering from solitaire addiction?

There are tell tales signs of addiction associated with the playing solitaire that can help you determine whether or not your game play has become unhealthy and is in fact a full blown addiction requiring recovery.

Here are a few of the signs and symptoms most addicts of addiction solitaire share:

    • You get an adrenaline rush while playing addiction solitaire.
    • You feel guilty about playing the game during play or after play and even close or minimize the window on your computer when others come around.
    • You lose track of time while playing addiction solitaire.
    • You lie about the amount of time you spend playing addiction solitaire or even thinking about playing.
    • You become defensive when someone suggests that you play addiction solitaire too often or that it is interfering with your life and normal activities.
    • You have been scolded at work for playing solitaire and it has affected your productivity.
    • You become upset when someone or something interrupts your game play.
    • You play addiction solitaire when you are feeling depressed or stressed out.
    • You often stay up late to play addiction solitaire.
    • You often neglect your physical appearance and ignore personal hygiene needs when indulged in game play (for example, you skip showers because you don’t want to stop playing addiction solitaire).
    • You have trouble sticking to a routine eating schedule and skip meals while involved in game play.
    • You avoid going out, decline social invites and ignore family members when playing addiction solitaire.
    • You get frequent migraines from staring at the computer screen for extended periods of time.
    • You have backaches due to sitting at your computer for extended periods of time.
    • You are unable to stop playing addiction solitaire at any given time, especially in the middle of a current game.You have upgraded your game play by purchasing solitaire software or downloading advanced versions of addiction solitaire from the internet.
    • You have become addicted to the computer or internet.

Did you see yourself in any of those signs of the addiction solitaire addict?

There’s no need to fear or worry if you did. It’s a rather common addiction, and one that many sufferers don’t even recognize they have. Still, it is an addiction and requires commitment to recovery to break free of it before it consumes more of your time and life.

Addiction solitaire affects the lives of more people than you know. Think of all the people it is available to, young and old. Employed and unemployed. Anyone with access to a computer is able to play solitaire and therefore stands a chance of becoming addicted to it. The seriousness of solitaire addiction was brought to the light in 2005, when North Carolina State Senator Austin Allran proposed the anti-solitaire legislation. He believed that by erasing games like solitaire from company computers employees would be more productive.

By admitting to your solitaire addiction and treating it as any other addiction, by reaching out for recovery, you can overcome it!

Read How To Overcome Addiction To Solitaire here Overcoming Addiction To Solitaire

Signs Of Addiction Quote

No one is immune from addiction; it afflicts people of all ages, races, classes, and professions.

Patrick J. Kennedy

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If a single sentence could sufficiently describe a lifetime, then this would be an apt description of Moya’s life. From a privileged childhood to adulthood of bankruptcies and subsequent salvation, Moya weathered all storms to be where she is now—a fulfilled woman with a story to tell.

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Overcoming Drug Addiction

Overcoming Drug Addiction

Overcoming Drug Addiction

Drug addictionOvercoming drug addiction, you must do it otherwise it can take over and destroy your life, here are a few tips to help you overcome drug addiction, and move forward.

For centuries drugs have been produced, utilized and even glorified in film and music.

While many addictions are self formed, like overeating, drug addictions are usually brought on by peer pressure and an introduction to the different drug selections to an individual by a peer.

The pressure is great and some don’t know how to say no, others don’t want to say no.

For me being in the hotel game (my family owned a hotel) we drank with our customers, were around drug uses and before I knew it I was an alcoholic and using drugs and it nearly destroyed me.
 
Do you exercise your right to say no?
 
Or do you feel you can exercise your right to say yes without causing any real damage to your life and health?

Perhaps partaking in drug use only on occasions?

Unlike some other subjects of addiction, moderate use of drugs is not encouraged.

What starts out as a therapeutic method or a social activity typically progresses into a drug addiction.

Many drugs do not allow users the freedom to simply dabble into them; they hold them captive from the first moment of use, often unbeknown to the user.

I was taking slimming pills, uppers to stay awake, downers to go to sleep and marijuana to have fun, mix all of this with alcohol and what a brain killer.

If you are using any type of drugs, even incorrectly using prescription drugs, chances are you have a drug addiction, this is when overcoming drug addiction is a must for your well being. Signs Of Addiction

The Damages of Drug Addiction

What kind of damage can drug addictions do to you?

Here are a few examples of drug addiction’s damage:

  • Loss of employment, friends and family.
  • Prison (drug addictions often lead to lives of crime).
  • Severe dental problems (typical in users of methamphetamine).
  • Undesirable changes in physical appearance, such as early aging.
  • Psychological issues.
  • Serious illness (such as HIV, contracted through shared needles or risky sexual behavior).
  • Lung disease, heart complications and brain damage.
  • Death by over dose.

Overcoming Drug Addiction 

A drug addiction can be one of the most difficult addictions to admit to, and honestly overcoming addiction to it can be just as hard.

Often times, an addict is so distorted by their use of the drug that they are honestly unable to think clearly and rationally enough to recognize and admit to their addiction.

If you are able to see the damage being done to your life and the lives of those around you, you could be well on your way towards recovery.

And this is what I did, I took a long look at myself and realized if I didn’t stop I wouldn’t have a marriage, my children god knows how they would have turned out and myself I could have easily have died with all the stupid things I was doing to myself.

Here are a few steps you need to take to overcoming drug addiction;

  • Enroll in an inpatient or outpatient program if possible. Some insurances cover stays at inpatient programs and participation in outpatient treatment. It is best to be under medical supervision while going through withdrawals and the drug will be out of sight and reach.
  • Find your local Narcotics Anonymous and start attending meetings to get support from others who have personally dealt with drug addiction.
  • Find a hobby (a healthy hobby will give you an outlet to release feelings and relieve boredom).
  • Ask for the support and involvement of non addict friends and family.
  • Avoid places where you know people use or sell drugs.
  • Maintain a healthy lifestyle (from the way you eat to finding spirituality, make your lifestyle a healthy one with no room for drug use and addiction)

Recovery from drug addictions is a goal that can only be achieved through a lifelong commitment to sobriety.

When you decide to free yourself from the enslavement of drug addictions you get to experience the natural high of life itself.

I can’t explain the totally freedom I have I am in control of my life again.

As a special bonus with my book I have alot of free information to give to you to help you overcome your addictions.

Overcoming Drug Addiction Quote By Malcolm Muggeridge

I will lift mine eyes unto the pills. Almost everyone takes them, from the humble aspirin to the multi-colored, king-sized three deckers, which put you to sleep, wake you up, stimulate and soothe you all in one. It is an age of pills.

Malcolm Muggeridge

Overcoming Life’s Challenges

The Inspiring and Empowering Story of One Woman’s Triumph Over Alcoholism, Bankruptcy, weight issues and Despair.

She did not just struggle to survive. She struggled to win!

If a single sentence could sufficiently describe a lifetime, then this would be an apt description of Moya’s life. From a privileged childhood to adulthood of bankruptcies and subsequent salvation, Moya weathered all storms to be where she is now—a fulfilled woman with a story to tell.

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Overcoming Addiction

Overcoming Addiction

Overcoming Addiction

Overcoming AddictionOvercoming addiction was a never ending battle for me, as I just didn’t have one addiction I had many, from alcohol right down to biting my nails.

I talk about my many addictions in my book Overcoming Life’s Challenges here I share with you what my addictions were and how I came to overcome them, and give you the steps to overcome them as well. Looking back on where I was and where I am now and especially after writing my book it really opened my eyes to how addicted I was to so many things and how overcoming addiction was going to be hard for me, I know, but if I didn’t do it I wouldn’t move forward.

There are so many addictions, addictions we never even knew or thought of, or didn’t even think it was an addiction.

I have put a list together (and there are many more addictions) and a solution to overcoming the addiction you may have.

In Overcoming Addictions I address the different Types of Addiction and how to overcome them, from drugs to shopping to food. It’s also important to know the Signs of Addiction.

Overcoming Addiction to Alcohol

An addiction without recovery results in plenty of damage to you and your loved ones.
 
How has your alcohol use affected your life?
 
Here are some of the damaging effects and how to overcome the addiction to alcohol
 
Download Overcoming Alcohol Addiction Overcoming Alcohol Addiction
 
If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.
 

Overcoming Drug Addiction

What starts out as a therapeutic method or a social activity typically progresses into drug addiction.

What kind of damage can drug addictions do to you?

Here are a few examples of drug addiction’s damage, and how to overcome drug addiction Overcoming Drug Addiction

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

Overcoming Addiction to Sugar

It may be hard to believe, but you can become addicted to sugar.

It can consume you just the same as a drug addiction or any other form of addiction.

Here are some of the ways in which it does its damage, and how to overcome sugar addiction Overcoming Sugar Addiction

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

Overcoming Compulsive Eating Disorders

There are so many eating disorders, this link will take you to a list of them, Overcoming Compulsive Eating Disorders

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

Overcoming Chocolate Addiction

Chocolate addiction has a way of creeping into your life, looking like a friend when it is, in fact, an enemy and doing its damage, just the same as any addiction.

A few of the ways in which chocolate addiction does its damage and how to overcome chocolate addiction Overcoming Chocolate Addiction

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

Overcoming Addiction to Exercise

If you don’t go about exercising in a healthy way, an addiction to exercise can result, and the results aren’t pretty.

Here are a few ways in which exercise addiction does its damage to the addict and help you overcome that addiction Overcoming Exercise Addiction

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

Overcoming Addiction To Work

An addiction to work can affect your life in ways similar to any other form of addiction.

Here are just a few of the affects it can have and how to overcome that addictionOvercoming Addiction To Work

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

Overcoming being a Shopaholic

How can your shopping affect your life and the lives of those around you?

Here are a few of the ways it can do its damage and how to overcome that addiction of shopping Overcoming Shopaholic Addiction

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

Help with Gambling Addiction

Gambling addiction results in damages to the life of its addict just the same as other addictions.

Here are a few of the ways in which an addiction to gambling can harm you and those in your life, so you can see that overcoming addiction to gambling is a must. Help With Gambling Addiction

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

How to fight Sex Addiction

Admitting that you have an addiction, an uncontrollable preoccupation with sex and need recovery is the first step in the right direction.

Here are a few other steps to take to overcoming addiction to sex How To Fight Sex Addiction

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

Help with Pornography

Pornography addiction can lead to serious consequences for the addict.

Here are the most prominent means by which it achieves ruining a life, and how to overcome that addiction. Overcoming Pornography Addiction

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

How to cure Internet Addiction

Don’t down play your addiction to internet;

Here are a few steps you should take to figure out how to cure internet addiction: Overcoming an Internet Addiction

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

Overcoming Cigarette Addiction

The addiction ruins your insides and eventually your outside appearance and even the world around you becomes affected.

Here are some of the ways cigarette addiction has harmed those touched by it through the years and how you can overcome it Overcoming Cigarette Addiction

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

Overcoming Television Addiction

Television addiction, you may think its harmless, but its not.

Let me show you that it can be harmful to you, and how you can overcome that addiction.Overcoming Television Addiction

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

Overcoming Coffee Addiction

Coffee addiction has its damaging effects, just the same as any other addiction.

Here are a few common corruptions that accompany coffee addiction, and how to overcome that coffee addiction Overcoming Coffee Addiction

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

Overcoming Addiction to Solitaire

It has damaging effects related to it and if you don’t realize them and come to the conclusion that you need recovery, the game can play with your life.

Here are a few ways in which addiction solitaire can cause damage to you, and ways to overcome that addiction Overcoming a Solitaire Addiction

If you think you know of anyone with this addiction or think they have this addiction please go to Signs of Addiction (link found above), to see if they have the signs.

I invite you to visit my information on addiction and recovery.

Overcoming Addiction Quote By Anne Wilson Schaef

We must move in our recovery from one addiction to another for two major reasons: first, we have not recognized and treated the underlying addictive process, and second, we have not accurately isolated and focused upon the specific addictions.

Anne Wilson Schaef

Overcoming Life’s Challenges

The Inspiring and Empowering Story of One Woman’s Triumph Over Alcoholism, Bankruptcy, weight issues and Despair.

She did not just struggle to survive. She struggled to win!

If a single sentence could sufficiently describe a lifetime, then this would be an apt description of Moya’s life. From a privileged childhood to adulthood of bankruptcies and subsequent salvation, Moya weathered all storms to be where she is now—a fulfilled woman with a story to tell.

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